When in the dating world I pay very close attention how a man talks about his ex’s. Now of course there is always that one crazy one that you date, but if he says that every one of his ex’s was a bitch or crazy, then I pass. Because I may be the next crazy bitch that he is telling his new girlfriend about. Same goes for women as well. My friend E pretty much says that every ex she has ever had is a raging a**hole. My question to her is, if that’s true…what does that say about you? You keep picking raging a-holes. Or maybe you are what is the problem with the relationships? Or my friend who I upset when she was fighting for custody over a child when her and her boyfriend broke up. He was suddenly unfit to get to spend time with the child (because screw him for wanting to leave her). Every time I have seen her ex with the child he has been nothing but great with the kid. I told her if he was fit enough to stick his dick in her and get her pregnant, then he was fit enough to be a dad. And if you argue that point…that just means you sleep with men without thinking…aka…slut. 😛
No one was crazier than the girl I knew (an acquaintance not friend) who found out that her boyfriend that she lived with was going to have her move out (through one of his friends). He was allergic to cats. So for weeks she collected the neighbor’s cat urine. One night he told her that they were over and that she needed to find a place to stay and that he would give her some time to find a place and then move out. The day she moved out she doused all of his belongings in cat urine and shaved the cat and put cat hair though out the condo. The point of that is to show you that crazy is all relative. 😀
I bring all this up because my friends are still kind of in awe as to how well my ex and I get along. They think that since we did not have children together that we don’t need to be talking to each other. I had a partial filling fall out on Tuesday. I have a dental phobia and therefore have to be knocked out to go…so someone has to drive me there. He was nice enough to take off of work early and take me there. Wait the two hours till I was done and drive me home. Stopping first to get some soft food at the store. We went to dinner and I treated him to a burrito as a thank you. It’s not much but a burrito is in my budget. My friends thought this was odd. I don’t. We still like and respect each other as human beings. I wish more couples could be like that. Most of the time they are too busy figuring out how to be vengeful at each other. Which accomplishes nothing.
Because my week was a little thrown off (there were a few other things as well I won’t go into) I didn’t get any St. Patty’s Day baking done. So today, on St. Patty’s Day I worked on getting a few things in. The first was some Grasshopper Fudge…no, no real bugs in there. I love Fantasy Fudge at Christmas time but this year we didn’t have any. I thought the mint would be a nice nod to St. Patty’s Day. It was. You definitely get the mint flavor in these, but not in an oh my gosh overkill kind of way.
Everyone be safe tonight…and try not to go home with anyone crazy if you are singe. 😛
Grasshopper Fudge
3 cups sugar
¾ cup unsalted butter
2/3 cup evaporated milk
6 ounces semi-sweet chocolate chips
6 ounces mint chips
Pinch of salt
1 7-oz jar Marshmallow crème
1 tsp. Crème De Mente (optional)
Combine sugar, margarine and milk in heavy 2-1/2 quart saucepan; bring to full rolling boil, stirring constantly.
Continue boiling 5 minutes over medium heat, stirring, if you have a candy thermometer, you want it to read 234F.
Remove from heat, stir in chocolate till melted. Add marshmallow crème, and Crème de Mente and beat till blended.
Pour into greased 13 x 9-inch baking pan. Let cool and cut into 1-inch squares. This sets up fairly quickly if you have a cool kitchen.
Adapted from the back of the Kraft Marshmallow Crème Jar
Kristina @ spabettie says
wow, that story puts a new spin on Crazy Cat Lady.
I am friends with several exes, and there are some friends of mine who think this is weird… actually only one, really, and when I think of her relationships, yeah, they all “ended badly”. mew.
I like hearing you and your ex are friendly, that’s good. So are burritos. Dentists, not so much. I have a crippling fear.
this would be My Very Favorite Fudge.
K says
I have no idea how difficult divorce must be, and of course, I hope I never find out. But I’m really impressed with your attitude about it and the fact that you guys can remain friends. I think it shows that you’re both good people, maybe just not good for each other.
hobby baker says
Ohohoho, I can never make this. I would eat the entire pan myself! (I have always loved grasshopper anything.)
VeggieGirl says
You’re strong, dear Peabody.
Steph says
I got to say I have been loving your posts lately. I love your honesty and this “I don’t give a shit what you think” attitude. It’s kind of awesome. Thanks Peabody!
Melissa says
I am impressed with you and you ex both. No wonder you can make magic in the kitchen with a beautiful heart like that. And the fudge looks delicious! Thank you for sharing these personal things – to someone going through a breakup, it helps to hear…
Amy @ ElephantEats says
Craziness is definitely relative…but I think we’re all capable of being a lil crazy. Kudos to you for getting along with your ex. Sure makes things easier, I’d imagine!
And the fudge looks yummy. Hope your feelin ok after your dental work 🙂
Sarena (The Non-Dairy Queen) says
Luckily I don’t have many ex’s. I met my husband at 19 and we are now 36. We have a deep understanding that people change and we accept each other with those changes. That does not always work for people and things have to change. I love that you and your ex are still friends. That says a lot about your relationship. I could not agree more about the crazies. I hope your tooth is feeling better.
Sarena (The Non-Dairy Queen) says
Luckily I don’t have many ex’s. I met my husband at 19 and we are now 36. We have a deep understanding that people change and we accept each other with those changes. That does not always work for people and things have to change. I love that you and your ex are still friends. That says a lot about your relationship. I hope your tooth is feeling better.
Joanne says
Aside from one ex who told me that the problem with our relationship was that I didn’t want to have a threesome, I actually get along with all of my exes really well! No hard feelings. I appreciate why I was with them to begin with but also why we broke up. The end.
I didn’t do a single lick of St. Patty’s day baking so I envy you your fudge.
kat says
Ha! Couldn’t agree more with your first paragraph – and you wrote it so eloquently too 😉
Anne says
Awesome post. Love it!
Rosa says
I agree with you. It is better to in good terms with an ex than to hate one another…
Yummy fudge.
Cheers,
Rosa
Lisa says
My ex-husband is actually who gave me the link to your blog. He and I get along wonderfully and usually text or IM 4-5 times a week. He lives too far away to meet up for dinner or we’d do that.
I’m glad that you and your ex were able to find the friendship that was part of your previous relationship and save it.
Jeane says
Thank you for posting such a insightful, straight-forward opinion today. My husband is the one who thinks being friends with your ex is weird. I don’t have any animosity towards my past relationships. I loved them once, even if I don’t now.
You really brighten my day, Pea. Thank you.
Sue says
The fudge looks great, I may have to try it. As for the ex thing, I think it is great. My friends’ parents got divorced but remained friends and began a relationship again, they lived together for many many years before deciding to get married again. Sometimes you just aren’t ready for that other person yet, sometimes you are better friends. Good for you guys. Hope you tooth is feeling better.
Mrs. L says
Love your post.
And mint chocolate chips? Never seen them around here 🙁
Baking Soda says
When you decide to say something you really you say it.. You make me smile. Your attitude towards and relationship with your ex makes me smile.
(Fudge makes me grin.)
Lisa @ The Cooking Bride says
I never understood how someone could be mean and hateful to a person they used to care about. I’m glad you and your ex get along so well. It just takes so much effort to hate someone.
Dolores says
I love that you can put into words exactly what I’m thinking. And the dental phobia… I think we’re soul sisters from different mothers.
Can’t wait to try the fudge!