Today I am riled up. So very riled up. You may have read about the Playboy Bunny Dani Mathers who thought it would be hilarious and somehow okay to Snapchat a photo of a woman at the gym naked. As you can guess she was not in Playboy Bunny shape and Mather’s captioned the photo “If I can’t unsee this then you can’t either”.
Well, immediately people started calling her out on it like they should. She then thought it best to go a make a video telling people that she posted it as an accident. Sure I often take photos of naked people I don’t know at the gym and then WRITE A CAPTION about it…you know on accident. Clearly she needs better PR people.
This is a HUGE violation of privacy like no other. You took a nude photo of a woman who had no idea you were taking a photo of her. This poor woman simply went to the gym to get in a workout. Some of us have the radical idea that it’s okay to be naked in a woman’s locker room even if you don’t have the body of a Playboy bunny. There were naked women in my gym’s locker room this morning after water aerobics. Not once in my mind did I think to mock them, photograph them “accidently” and in fact the only thing I thought was that the one woman was blocking my way and how to get around her.
She has since taken down her social media outlets as the backlash is getting to her I am sure. But before that, she was all apologies. You are not sorry you said it. You are not sorry you took the photo. You are not sorry you thought it was okay to mock a woman with a perfectly fine body. You are sorry you got caught. I hope the police get involved. I hope the woman sues you for all your bunny earnings. I hope an example gets made of you so that people understand this is not okay.
As a former Weight Watcher employee, I can tell you all women get nervous about working out at the gym. It’s kind of extra hard to convince them that people aren’t paying attention to them when some vapid woman comes along and post something like this. This woman just wanted to work out. You don’t know her story. Maybe she is like me and has taken Prednisone for the last 18 years of her life and that has taken a toll on her body. Maybe she had a bunch of kids. Maybe she just moves her body for her health and not for a living. You do not know. And you certainly don’t take a nude photo to mock this person.
While Dani you might have pointed out what you thought was ugly…all you really did was show the world how truly ugly you are.
P.S. I know it’s not a Tuesday…but this post called for booze. 🙂
- 2 fl. oz. (1/4 cup) Absolut Citron, chilled
- 2 fl. oz. (1/4 cup) fresh Meyer lemon juice
- 1 fl. oz. Sweet Retreat Key Lime Pie Liqueur
- 1 fl. oz. (2 Tbs.) simple syrup (to make your own, see below)
- Lemon-Lime Soda to finish
- In a pint glass add ice.
- Place the Citron, key lime pie liqueur, lemon juice and syrup into a shaker and shake.
- Put the lid on the shaker and make sure you have a tight seal.
- Shake for 7 to 10 seconds and then strain into the prepared glass.
- Pour lemon-lime soda to the top.
- Garnish with the lemon slice.
Mia says
Amen…
We should be taking care of each other not tearing each other apart.
erin m. says
Totally agree with this, Mia.
Darlene Richter says
I had not heard about this, but enrages me, and makes me so sad.
I have struggled with body image, just now at age 50, am (mostly) comfortable in my own skin.
No one has the right to make fun of another human being, notwithstanding the incredible violation of that woman’s privacy, in a locker room, Really!
Certainly does call for a drink. Definitely going to try this one.
Alice says
I had not heard about this but it makes me ill. I hope the victim gets a huge payout!
Ash says
Holy crap on a cracker. You know I read the article and she wasn’t sorry. She was just sorry she got caught and her claim it was supposed to go to a friend instead of public doesn’t make it better, it still means she was doing some super gross body shaming and taking the totally inappropriate picture just less visibly. It makes me so angry.
On. The plus side, that cocktail sounds absolutely fantastic. I suspect I am going to have to work it into my lazy weekend plans.
Peabody says
I know. I laugh that she still thinks it’s okay that she was being a mocking bitch…but she only meant it for her close friends. 🙂
cakespy says
Eff yes. You know, it’s funny because I find it interesting that she said that she never meant anyone other than her friend to see it. I think there is a lesson in that. Just don’t ENGAGE in that behavior, because even if it’s just private it is still toxic. In a way I think it is good that her behavior was exposed, because it has revealed a lot about the real her.
DL says
Wow, i hadn’t heard about this until now but how horrifying. As someone who has gone up and down in weight, and struggles to get the confidence to workout ( without changing at the gym mind you, that terrifies me), this story makes me sick to my stomach. Is this the selfie generation ideal rearing its head? People are so damn self involved and hateful of others, it’s heartbreaking. I am SO thankful that the ladies at my gym cheer me on, vs mock me, even though I am often the slowest one there. It’s what keeps me going on my path to (hopefully) becoming fit. I pity the foolish woman that posted this, as her life is only surface deep. I am grateful to have people that love me as I am, flaws and all.
Dana says
I laughed at the part where she said it was supposed to go to a friend not be a public post and it was an accident. I’m sorry but thats the biggest crock ever and like you said she is just sorry she got called out not that she actually did it. Although now she probably is sorry because she is going to lose everything, as she should.
Melissa says
Some people are just cretins and she has proven herself to be an A grade one!! I too hope she gets her insubstantial, cretinous arse sued off her – it would serve her right. Odd that she thinks it’s ok to take photos of people naked at all!!!!!!
Leah says
In a world that’s becoming increasingly dangerous for women, we should not have to worry about “other” women!
Note for Dani:
You’ve taken a photo of a woman you do not know, whose story you do not know, likely…you don’t even know her name. Yet you felt you had the right to do what you did…because???
You say it was meant for a friend? With friends like you…your friends need no enemies!!
On the bright side, the lady whose photo you took without permission is likely a Mom to a happy family that adores her for who she truly is. Her heart will be at least 5 times the size of her body, her mind likely wouldn’t dream of doing what you did. You see Dani, it’s not your body size, your breast size (real or not), the length of your legs or the size of your derriere that matters. It’s the size of your heart and how much it loves…the strength of your mind and how it views and treats others, that really matters. On both counts – you appear to be an utter failure. How sad that such an attractive woman on the outside, could be so uncommonly ugly by nature.